Here's a secret: if you offer activities that have real purpose to your child, she will remain busy and quiet longer than you thought possible.
"Me do it!"
Do you dread these three words?
Imagine if you could respond by pointing to a cabinet, your child would gather the tools she needs on her own, and you could continue making dinner.
Yes, it's possible.
Adapting your kitchen is easy with a little planning and set-up. First, create a functional design that works for your child and everyone else in your family. Then, consider the time you spend in the kitchen, both working on tasks like meal prep and clean-up and time available for projects.
Here are some tips to get you started!
Design the Space
Keep any tools and materials that can be used completely independently (without supervision) in easy reach of your child. This may mean switching your cabinets around so a few lower drawers are free for plates, bowls, and apron, and cooking tools. All others should be put away and available by request only. This will ensure safety and help keep your sanity. Re-evaluate what you have available every few weeks (or sooner if you see a need to).
Store all (independent) tools for your child so they are clearly organized, and arranged in a logical fashion for the task (dustpan near the trash, plates near the silverware, apron on a hook, etc)
Think through everything your child will need for the activity, including clean-up. Can she easily reach or access these items? Are they arranged in a logical fashion?
Do you have a work space available for table and floor activities? Where will your child clean her hands and do these lessons? Can she safely reach on her own? A learning tower, step-stool, or low table are helpful adaptations.
Plan Your Time
Create time for your child to help you make lunches, snacks, and dinners when you can. Use this time to show new skills, build vocabulary, and encourage cooperation in completing the task. Children who help make food are more interested in eating it!
Offer simple demonstrations of what to do and how to do it, when asked. Be mindful of over-helping or over-suggesting how to use something which can stunt creativity and problem solving. Ask questions to help guide your child in finding a solution: Who should stir next, What tool do we need, Where would you find it, How do we know to move to the next step, etc.
Plan to have blocks of unstructured time, so your child can really get into a project without interruption of other events or tasks. Working in the kitchen without a looming goal of getting dinner on the table will help your child feel more relaxed, and is a great time to practice skills. Once your space is set up, you can simply encourage her to get out the material on her own!
What is one thing your child really loves to help with in your kitchen?
About the Author:
Leanne Gray, M.Ed has over fifteen years experience working with children in both public, private, and Montessori schools, and is AMI primary trained.
She's on a mission to raise a generation of kind, confident, responsible children, and does this through her work with families and schools. Read more here.