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The Necessary Foundation for Reading and Writing

The Necessary Foundation for Reading and Writing

We don't often consider the importance of spoken language and the role it plays in learning to read and write. But the truth is, you can't write if you don't have something to say, and you can't read if you don't understand another person's spoken thoughts. Before you even consider things like the sound games, letter practice, or early readers, work on these four key conditions for a strong foundation in spoken language at home.

How to Offer Real Choice...Even When There Isn't One.

How to Offer Real Choice...Even When There Isn't One.

Choice is essential to developing independence, avoiding power struggles, building self-confidence, and autonomy.  But it's more than merely offering the power to choose; real choice involves creating a situation where choosing is actually possible.  

Here's how it's done.

Show. Don't Tell.

Show. Don't Tell.

Show and tell might be helpful for sharing at circle time, but when it comes to young children the show is much more important than the tell.   I bet you've already experienced the power of showing your child something, like that time your toddler said "that phrase you don't say in public" when she dropped her plate.  

Here's how you can purposefully show a skill to your young child, step by step. 

8 common parenting mistakes that hurt your child's healthy development

8 common parenting mistakes that hurt your child's healthy development

I see these all the time. And I wish I didn't.

These are real phrases I've heard, or behaviors I witnessed. And while they may seem harmless, silly, or all too familiar, these common mistakes are actively making it harder for your child to be a self-actualized person.

The sweet spot for teaching life skills

The sweet spot for teaching life skills

It's there, right on the edge of their current abilities that children are able to focus, practice, and eventually master a skill. (The same is true for adults btw). These activities offer just the right amount of challenge and interest for young children, and in turn build independence, grit, and real skills. Here's a few examples by age to get you started.

Is it practice, or is it a goal?

Is it practice, or is it a goal?

Children need lots of time to practice individual skills before they can be successful at meeting a goal on their own. We take a lot of these skills for granted as adults, and it's easy to forget that young children need to practice skills before they are ready to take on a larger goal.  But what's the difference between practice and goals?